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My Dad - Cancer/Pancreas/Liver was posted 10/30/1999 10:01 pm by Feddy
E-mail Address: Feddy@mytalk.com

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On 10-27-99, my dad asked me to call up his doctor in Italy because the doctor needed to talk to me. My dad said that he had something wrong with his "pancara" which I wasn't sure how that italian word translated into english. I was pretty sure it translated "pancreas", but not 100% sure. So anyway, the very next day (10-28-99) I called this doctor at 3:15AM (my time), 9:15AM (Italy time). To make a long story short, my dad gave me the wrong number, I called him, asked him to repeat the number, it turns out a "9" was supposed to be a "7" (in the phone number). I told him I'd call him back after speaking with the doctor. He said he was about to run some errands but that he'd wait for me to call him back in 15-20 minutes or so. My dad mentioned that he was feeling much better today. I did speak to the doctor. The doctor said that my dad has advanced cancer of the pancreas and in his liver also and that his liver is also shifted. That we should decide if he is to have chemotherapy and that even if he does have chemotherapy that it was only successful in 10% of the cases and that if it were his own dad, he'd just leave him be and treat whatever ails him at the moment. I repeated what he said to make sure I understood correctly, and he confirmed that I was understanding correctly. So, there are 2 options: to do or not to do the chemotherapy. The doctor wants me to call him back (after we discuss) and let him know. Since I had promised to call my dad back after I spoke to the doctor, I had to call him back because I was preventing him from leaving to run his errands. I called him back and, in a regular voice, told him I was not able to get through right now, that the connections from NY to Italy are a bit screwed up right now (ha -- how the heck am I talking to him if the connections are screwed up - didn't think of that, hope he didn't either), that I would keep trying and would call him later and that he should go do his errands and that I would call him later on in the day ( I needed time to think and calm down). I called my little sister at 3:50AM, got her husband, spoke to her. Told her the above. We will speak again after the kids get off to school. Frank, my husband, woke up and was just kind of stroking my shoulders (Thank you God for a man like him!) Anyway...this is the story. I've prayed before I started writing this out. I pray that whatever God's will, will be done and I also pray that God let me know what that will is so I can make good decisions and get some peace. I also put in my request that if there is any chance that God may actually want to cure him miraculously, that he do so, please and thank you. That no matter what the outcome, I know we only live for a time and then we die. That before he dies, that God do whatever work he needs to do in my dad so that he can be with God forever. That my dad is responsive to God's hand. And thankfulness that he's been my dad, and a good one, for as long as he will allow. That God give me the words to tell my dad when I call him next. And wisdom to know when I need to just leave things at God's feet and let him handle the rest with confidence that he is in control. So...I guess this starts page 1 of a new thing for me. Thanks for listening. It's good to have you to email about this! Oooo ... please say a pray for my dad about this. I believe that God hears his people. Thank you! Feddy @mytalk.com (I'm 35, Female, NY) - feel free to email me if you want to - it's ok - thanks ===================== The update: 10-28-99: My sister came over in the morning for breakfast and we called my dad while we were both on the phone with him. We all three spoke the entire conversation in our regular voices. I asked him how his day was, if he ran his errands, how he was feeling, etc. We had a tiny bit of small talk after that, then I reminded him that he told me that the doctor said he had something with his "pancara" (pancreas) and with his liver. Then I told him that the doctor said his pancreas has cancer - did he know this? He did not. He must have been shocked, but he didn't flip out. He was talking real regular. That's when he/she/me started questioning why he had two prior operations, how long the doctors knew this for, why didn't the other doctors tell him, about chemo being only successful 10% of cases, etc. We came up with some more questions to ask the doctor that I will call him with later on (3am-NYTime, 9am-ItalyTime). He had believed that he would get stronger in time and that he just needed time and rest. He gave me the phone number of his friend that accompanied him to the doctor appointments - I may call him up if the need arises. We spoke and questioned some more. We said we loved each other and we said good bye and that I will call him again after I speak to the doctor again. That's it for now. That's the update. Thanks for listening! Love ya, Feddy @mytalk.com - feel free to email me if you want to - it's ok - thanks

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