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I'm scared too was posted 08/01/2004 08:30 pm by Alan
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My wife Teddi has done so well I have taken it for granted. To see a post like yours remindes me how quick things can change. I guess you have to take one day at a time and not dwell on what's to come but not be surprised when it does. I'm scared because it's just me - I have no one to help me. Hospice eventually, I'm sure, but it really will be just me. Some friends will drop by but as things get worse I don't know - some people just can't be around this type of thing. Teddi still says things like 'next spring we will...'. What should I say? Do I say let's do it now because in all likeleyhood you won't be here? What's the balance between facing reality and useless worrying? I think she's just fooling herself - but in a good way. I, on the other, hand have to talk to someone about what's likely to happen. About what I'm scared about. There are so many things I can't talk about with her. I refuse to make her feel bad!

Anyway, I guess it all comes down to the old cliche' 'one day at a time'


I hope I have it in me - I have to.


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