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Brian and Leah was posted 01/31/2002 09:27 am by Cindy
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My heart goes out to both of your. My husband, Alan, was diagnosed December 7, 2000 with pc,mets to the liver. He did so well until July when he started having problems with blood clots. He was on daily injections of Heperin?. Gemzar and Cisplatin kept the cancer under control for about 6 months. They then put him on Gemzar alone-at a higher dose. When that didn't keep the liver tumors from growing, they put him on Xeloda. The Xeloda didn't do anything for my husband, in fact, the cancer spread to his lungs and the involvement in the liver was so widespread that the doctor told us it would do more harm than good to continue treatment. That was in November, 2001. His abdomen filled with fluid and needed to be tapped. The doctor then decided to give him a small dose of some new chemo (can't remember the name) before his procedure. They drained him, but it was only 1 1/2 weeks before he filled up with fluid again. They drained him again and 3 days later his abdomen and legs were huge. He had a hard time getting his breath and was getting so weak, he decided to use 2 weeks of his vacation time to try to regain his strength. After a blood test, the doctor called and said his liver was better and gave us a glimmer of hope that the small amount of chemo was the source. Two days later after another blood test he called, liver counts better, but the kidneys were failing. Nothing else to do but call Hospice. They met with us on December 20th. Each day that followed he got worse. By Christmas, he was on oxygen, was very confused, and couldn't even walk to the bathroom without alot of help. The day after Christmas, we transported him to a Hospice care facility (it was his wish not to die at home-he didn't want that to be a memory associated with the house). He was transported by ambulance-what a difficult decision for us. I knew he would never come home. He was admitted at 3:00 pm on Wednesday, the 26th and passed away Thursday the 27th at 6:45 am. He never had alot of pain-I was blessed to have had him for a year with this awful disease. He never complained or said, 'Why me'-he said 'Why anybody?'. The way he lived his life was an inspiration to many. We were highschool sweethearts and I miss him terribly. I lost my sister to breast cancer in September of 2001. I pray everyday for a cure for all kinds of cancer. I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 3 1/2 years ago and at the time we thought this was going to be a major challenge. Needless to say when Alan was diagnosed with pc, I knew that we were facing the biggest battle of our lives. He wrote a message he wanted to be read at his memorial service right after he was diagnosed. I read it and would like to share it with you. Don't Take Life For Granted Take time to: Forgive those who have crossed you, Settle unresolved issues with family, friends, and co-workers, Laugh-especially at yourself. Concentrate on what is good in life, Compliment hour spouse and your co-workers, Hug your adult children-tell them you are proud of them. Encourage their life choices. Volunteer for something. Make time to Pray-God will show you the right path if you ask. Take time to go fishing. There is a saying, 'God does not deduct from man's alloted time the hours spent fishing.' Tell your adult friends and let themknow you care about them-even man to man. Ask if they need anything and mean it. Because of each of you here, my life has truly been blessed and special. For this, I am eternally grateful. God's Blessings are all around you - recognize them, cherish them and take the time to enjoy them. If you don't have the time, make the time. May the power of God's love shine on each family. Your loving husban, proud, adoring father, loving son and son-in-law, caring brother and brother-in-law, devoted and ever thankful friend. Alan

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