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Some people let go of loved ones too early. It is a way of protecting themselves from the pain that is to come. The worst part is that most people who let go to early are wracked with remorse afterwords. I think it may be called 'anticipatory grief.' Perhaps those who know more can weigh in and help out here.
I am on my second go round with cancer. I lost my Mom to lung cancer 5 years ago and now my Dad has pc. Time with a dying parent is precious time. There is so much to say and do. For some people there is also a lot to unsay and undo. It is hard to realize it during the last few months, but we are blessed with this time.
I am sorry, I don't know how to tell you to deal with this. I just hope you and your Mom can help bring your brother around. He may not want to deal with grief now, but I believe he'll be happier if he does.
Good luck and peace,
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