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Final days was posted 06/30/2001 08:28 pm by Traci
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Mary Ann, these final days are the most confusing and stressful days. You don't want to lose your dad, but you don't want to watch him suffer any longer. The hardest thing I had to do was to tell my dad it was ok for him to move on. I promised him that I would take care of mom and my younger sister. I promised him that we would all be ok, we would miss him dearly but we would be ok. I knew in my heart that I needed to do this for him, so he could move on. But my heart was also screaming at me 'Its not ok...he can't move on...he has to fight harder, longer'. It hurts so bad to watch this wonderful, powerful man that we have admired all of our lives, looked up to, and confided in, turn into this motionless being that can no longer do what we have always known him to do. But now its your turn, your turn to suck in your sorrow and help your father with his transfermation into the next phase of his life. Sit by him, share memories with him, sing to him. He may not respond verbally, but he can hear you, and your words will comfort him. I told my dad how inspired I was by his fight to beat this beast but it was time to stop fighting. It was time for him to go to heaven and prepare a place for the rest of us. He gave us a wonderful loving home, now he needed to put that love in a place in heaven where we could all one day meet. Share your thoughts with him, let him know you are scared, let him know you are sad...also let him know he has done a wonderful job as a father and has given you the strength to get through this. I let my dad know that I would miss him more than anything in my life, while at the same time giving him 'permission' (if you will) to move on and be free from this awful disease. Take care of yourself and may God give you the strength that you need to get through this. I will be thinking of you and your family. Love, hugs and prayers...traci

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