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I applaud you for reaching out to your mom. I don't know if she will respond positively to you. All you can do is keep on letting her know, you are there for her. That helped me more than anything. When I told friends about me getting diagnosed with PC some wanted to fix me, some left me, literally didn't contact me any more, some didn't know what to say and others said some really stupid things like 'you'll be all right'!!! Yikes.
She's going through so much right now and just need some space to process. Give her some time but I understand your wanting to do so much more. Tell her you love her, that you are sad and confused but are there to support her. It's OK to cry together but honestly for me, if people cried over me then I felt like I needed to make them feel better. That was not helpful.
Call, text, send her sweet messages like hi just checking in. wishing you a good day, etc. I know it may be frustrating for you right now but this is not about you. It's about her. Yes you will have to manage your feelings whether that be with counseling or other means. It may be a tough road ahead.
PC absolutely sucks. I despise the disease with all my being. It victimizes not only the patient but the family. Be strong is so cliche for me so I will say stay positive. That doesn't mean that everything will work out the way you want, for me it means slow down, enjoy the simplest moment, enjoy a simple smile, take a deep breath and say thank you not for the disease but for peace in your heart. I'm so sorry that your mom unwillingly joined the cancer club. Just remember neither of you are alone.
All the best. Again I'm sorry that you have to have this experience.
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