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Pancreas CancerReply was posted 11/18/2016 12:08 am by ML
Yes, dad at one point just could not keep anything down. The vomiting was
severe. It turned out he had a severe infection and so they put him on
antibiotic and the vomiting settled.
But, for my dad at least, he never regained his appetite. Me and his wife
were trying to feed him and would just bang our heads against the wall when
he did not want to eat. For my dad, as I see it now, the body just wants to
stop. It was torture for him to eat and he once said to me 'I know I have to
eat, I can't and I know I have no choice but to eat... but I just can't'.
Compared to his wife, I did not force him to eat and he was grateful to have
Finally, he would not eat anything and we just wanted him to keep going,
because he wanted to keep going. So guess what....? We put a feeding tube
in. I cry when I think of dad. It was awful. By the time the feeding tube
was in, his memory was also failing, so he would get up in the middle of the
night and take off the tubes from his nose. So, we put mittens in his hands.
Finally, he was able to sneak his hands out and yank out the feeding tube
and the tube gave him the last infection from which he died 3 days later.
There is no easy answer KW. There are some people who are totally accepting
of their situation and will make the decision to enter hospice themselves.
Others like dad did not want to hear the word hospice. So we had to support
him in that and we fought with him till the last hour, when he just admitted
he was dying. After the last infection, he was admitted to ICU and he asked
the nurse 'what are my chances of walking out of the ICU?' The nurses was
not very encouraging and dad finally said 'this is it'.
Remember, we all have to go through this process KW. Just be there 100%.
Knowing we all have to go through this should make us calmer and more
together, which helps the person in need. But it is easier said than done.
Take care and I will be checking everyday to see if you have any posts and if
I will share my experiences if it helps you or your dad.
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