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A Lesson was posted 05/31/2014 06:15 pm by Mary Y - PA
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Yes I understood it was for the Bereavement side and my post was NOT a lecture. It's reasons to go on and can be applied to BOTH sides here.

Death is not exclusive and neither is grieving. Everyone who has ever loved and lost has had these exact same feelings. Regardless of whether this quote is out of a book or not, the subject line was 'How true'. It's NOT 'How true'. There are plenty of reasons to LIVE even if you've lost everything. My post just pointed out some reasons that this person might have needed to hear. I was supportive, I didn't say well you're right, if you lose everything why bother?

I stand by my post as there are others here who are losing their loved ones and just like we try to instill HOPE to those who are diagnosed with PC, we have to offer HOPE to those who are left behind.

My Spiritual Mentor was just like the man in this book. In 2005 when I was dx'd he made me fight for my life. He was the former Pastor of the Church which my husband's family attends. In 2010, the love of his life, his wife, contracted pneumonia and was really weak when one of her students came to visit her while she was in the hospital, what no one knew was this child had MRSA and this MRSA got into her lungs. She passed three days later. Six months later, I opened an email from this wonderful man and read that he was just dx'd with PC. I contacted my docs signed release upon release for his docs to access my medical records in an effort to help. I could only visit a few times but in all of these visits, emails and phone calls, I offered support, strength, prayer, etc. Being the Pastor of the Church he was at, he and his wife were allowed to live in the Parsonage, but when he was no longer able to fulfill his duties at the Church, they had to 'let him go'. The last time I saw him, the light went out of his eyes. You could see his resolve to live had now become a sense of urgency to die. He quit treatment and a little over a month later this man, who had so much to live for, passed away in his sleep, joining his wife less than 2 years after she passed.

In talking to others, we all quoted Scripture when offering support but not one of us thought to tell him why we needed him. Perhaps if we had, he'd still be with us. We'll never know.

EVERY life is too precious to lose. We are ALL worth more than we could ever imagine! And this IS the reason we are all here now. My prayers are with you all.

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