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Great news with your husband being stable, but you and the kids all have a daily routine outside of the house, but he does not. If he sold his practice then he must have been a professional and used to being out with people and of service to them. So how about suggesting that he find a place that could use his talents in volunteer work as I bet almost any place could be accommodating to his 'open schedule.' He could be honest and look for a place where he could set his hours and indicate if he was not up to it, it might be a last minute call. If he could just start with one day a week to have something on the calendar for himself. Another idea might be to try to establish an exercise routine which would be great for his overall health, might help reduce his overall anxiety, get him into a routine and/or help him meet some other folks with similar interest. This might be done through joining a gym or other more informal process such as swimming at a community pool or taking a class or finding a walking, tennis, golf or other group. A final suggestion for him might be to join a service group such as Kiwanis, Lions or Rotary which meets at a time convenient to him. Most of these clubs have 'retired' folks, and I can assure you that any club would find a job for your husband. He could then have his 'evening' or 'lunch' date with others, too.
You need to maintain your equilibrium for all of your sakes and your good health so I would not give up the time that you might need/choose to go out with a girl friend or to go out for an interest of our own.
Could both of you use a talk with your PCP to discuss your emotional concerns
and to possibly see is a mild anti-depressant or anti-anxiety med might help
to even out your system since of course there will be very unexpected bouts
of angst with PC.
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