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No matter what, I try to be aware that sometimes Sherrie just needs some space and time alone and I pull back. I think we as caregivers have a hard time letting our loved ones have time away from us as we feel as if we are missing valuable time and it is very important for me at least to remind myself I am NOT her only life and she needs and deserves time to be away doing other things with others who are just as important to her in other ways.
I remember when she was first DX'd, I do not think we said a cross word for several months to each other and spent all our time together. I would try not to cry in front of her and would only do so in the shower when alone.
You have to find new ways to connect sometimes physically and emotionally but, that is the new life you have and we all need to try and embrace it as best you can. Nothing will ever be the same as it once was and unless you want this to eat you up inside you/we have to learn to adapt in some ways and it never remains constant and is ever changing.
Sorry to ramble, just some personal points of view for whatever they might be worth to others, they are a work in progress and sometimes it is hard not to fall back and we try to move forward as much as possible.
THoughts and prayers,
Michael-PA <<<<<< caregiver and husband which is the most important ' thing
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